I'll never forget the last time I chased her. It was in September. I was still recovering from my stem cell transplant but I had enough energy to run a few laps with her. That day I don't think I had much cancer in me. But that was the last day. It was beautiful running with her. I had spent a year in Houston getting a new blood system and was finally free on a cloudless and warm September day. Before that year, I had chemo treatments that lasted eight months followed by the worst type of relapse filled with itching and chest pains. Two years of treatment and pain all out of me in the backyard as I ran like a maniac after a stupid dog.
I felt wonderful. That was a long time ago. This is the third year that I'm fighting for my life. Every day I wake up and prepare myself for the aches, the cramps, the nausea, the vomitting, the headaches, the shooting pains, the obstructed bowels, the blood in my nose and lungs and the fatigue. God, I am so, so tired. I can't climb a flight of stairs now without being so very tired. There's nothing wrong with me. There is no medical term for a body that's just pooped.
There is a drug out there that can help me. I can get relief for about five months before the cancer comes back or the really nasty side effects begin. But that was my back-up. To use the military analogy, this drug is my reserve troops. When it looks bad, then I always have that drug. You don't want to use this back up because it's so powerful that when the cancer comes back, and it always does, it really comes back balls out. And then you options to fight it.
Originally, Dr. O'Connor set me out on this path of waiting to use these reserve troops. Let's not use SGN right away. Let's use some other drugs to soften the cancer first and see how long we can go before we have to use it. Heck, we could go years without even considering it.
Dr. O'Connor changed his mind last week. He said I really need a couple of wins. I have a 5 cm mass in my chest now. That along with more than seven cancerous lymph nodes across my collarbones and upper chest. I have a lot of cancer in me.
About ten years ago, I went to see my Grandmother with a baby Conner in tow. This was her first Great Grandchild and all during the pregnancy, she begged me to come by with him as soon as I could so she could see her Great Grandchild before she died. She had ovarian cancer. But when I saw her it wasn't what I expected. She was very sick. So sick that she really couldn't care about Conner. This isn't a criticism of her at all. I understand it. I have a beautiful baby girl. But I can't enjoy her. I am sick and it has consumed me. I think of little else because I can do little else. I have become a benchwarmer in my life. I watch what goes on now from the sidelines. I sit and watch. Most of the time I don't even speak. That would be a pain because I'd have to breath and smile or something. Way, way too hard. I know how my grandmother felt. You just get so darn tired.
Last night I dreamt that I picked up my friend Scott Corirossi at the airport in Cancun. I had a house there. And I was telling him how great it was to be living there. I don't understand why because Cancun would really annoy me in real life. Rossi acted like I wasn't there. That happens now in most of my dreams. People are acting like I'm not there.